For couples · privately

Discover your
shared passion.

Fill out independently. Share a code. See what you both want — privately, on your own devices.

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01 / 03How it works

Three steps. Nothing
leaves your device.

1

Fill out independently.

You and your partner each open the app on your own phone. No account. No login. Just a checklist.

2

Generate a code.

Your answers turn into a single shareable code. The code is your data — there's nothing on a server.

3

Decode together.

Paste each other's codes side by side. See matches, talking points, and gaps — privately, on your devices.

FAQ

What is a desires checklist?

A desires checklist is a communication tool used by couples. Partners each fill out the same list independently, then compare. It helps you discover mutual interests and clarify limits — without the pressure of a live negotiation.

How does the code work?

Your answers are packed into a compact binary code. Nothing touches a server. The code is the data — no external storage. Save it to your notes, share it only with who you choose.

Is my data actually private?

Yes. Closr is a static HTML page. There is no backend, no database, and no analytics. Your browser does all the work. We have no way to see your answers even if we wanted to.

Can I use this without a partner?

Absolutely. Many people use the list for self-exploration — to understand their own desires, curiosities, and limits. Save your code to revisit later.

What does "Needs context" mean on an activity?

Items marked Needs context are activities where mistakes can cause serious harm. They require specific education, skill, and deep trust before attempting. Read the tooltip on the activity for a quick framing, and seek out community resources and mentors first.

What is Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC)?

Safe: Minimise risk, learn about activities, negotiate boundaries. Sane: Decide with a clear head, free from pressure. Consensual: All activities freely agreed to by everyone; consent can be withdrawn at any moment.

RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink) acknowledges that some activities carry inherent risk even with precautions — reducible through education and communication.

Who made Closr?

Closr is a free tool with no corporate backing, no subscription, and no monetisation. If you find it useful, share it with someone who might benefit.

STEP 1 / 3Shape your list
Turn off anything you don't want to think about today.
You can change this later. Some categories sit further out — opt in only if you want to.
Your list
Hard Limits
Anything that's a hard no, in your own words.
Private — kept on this device. Not included in your share code.
This stays here so you remember it later. It's never shared, even if your partner asks for the code.
Overall note (optional)
STEP 3 / 3Your code

This is your data.

Send it to your partner however you like. They paste it on their device. Nothing leaves your phone.

Save this code — it's the only way to restore your list or compare results later.

How your partner uses this

1
Send them your code (copy + paste, message, etc.)
2
They open Closr and fill out their own list
3
Either of you enters both codes below to see results
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